Now you might be wondering, how does one speed date? Speed dating is a quick form of dating, designed for meeting multiple individuals in a short amount of time.
It is a formalized process in which the participants are broken up into pairs and rotate partners every 3-8 minutes (depending on the event).
That's a lot, and it can work, but it can also leave you emotionally exhausted if you finally work out that perfect time to meet up with someone and then you have that drink and there's zero chemistry. My mind starts thinking thoughts like, "well, I can see him, but not on a Sunday when I have to deal with Met Life Stadium traffic.
Or if I finally meet someone I really like, we hit it off and then the we remember that it's taken 6 weeks for us to meet for 30 minutes. And not on a Friday night, especially during the summer because everyone is trying to get to the shore." If he drives to me, or I drive to him, it's nearly 30 dollars… And public transportation would require at the bare minimum a train or bus in NJ and at least one subway in New York and likely take over two hours, barring any rush hour traffic.
Add in the logistics of driving around NJ to grab "casual drinks" for a first date and you’re talking about world-peace impossible.
After the “daters” have done a full rotation and met one another, each individual will write a list of who he or she would like to see again.
If two participants have written down each other’s names, the event organizer will forward the contact information to both parties.
My brain constantly is swimming with logistical problems like, "I'm working until 5 and my daughter is with her father on Wednesday and Thursday, but he has his son and daughter and they have baseball until 9, and he's coaching, so that's out.
And Saturday might work, if we meet for coffee before 11 am when my daughter is done with gymnastics, but that's hoping his babysitter gets there before 9.